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Step Nine: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Step Nine: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. After making the list in step 8 it is now time to go out into the world and do our best to straighten out the past. This is the step that suggests that we make “direct amends” to those we have harmed. It is interesting that in the AA big book, when referring to the ninth step, it states, “remember we agreed we were willing to go to any length for victory over alcohol”. So if you are ever asked…

Step Seven: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

Step Seven: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. After you have honestly expressed willingness to have the negative items from your inventory removed in Step 6, you are ready to give them away in Step7. What do they mean humbly asked Him? To ”humbly ask” is a natural move after taking step 6 and to acknowledge that we cannot remove these shortcomings of our own power. We are approaching this step right sized. There is no humiliation here, only humility, which is a positive attitude towards our self and our lives. When I complete this step will I no…

Step Six: Were entirely ready to have God remove all of these defects of character.

Step Six: Were entirely ready to have God remove all of these defects of character. After sharing your inventory in step 5 it is now time to use what I like to call “the power steps” , 6 and 7 , to get rid of these objectionable items. Step 6 is about drawing out the willingness to give them up. Once again willingness is the key. When you can look back and see that you were given freedom from alcohol/drugs or whatever the obsession, maybe now you can believe that God can take the defects of character as well. If…

Step Four: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Step Four:  Made a searching and fearless moral inventory  of ourselves. After making a decision to turn to God, as you understand him, turning your will and your life is the beginning of the path  through the rest of the 12 steps.  Step 4 is about complete  self- examination. One important thing to remember as you move forward is that it will not work very well doing this on your own, without guidance. That is where a sponsor comes in.  A sponsor is someone who has the experience of having gone through the steps so they are able to help…

Step Three: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.

Step Three:  Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him. The steps seem to have a natural order of one step following into the next. If we have expressed willingness of the possibility that a higher power may be able to help solve our obsession then in the natural order of things turning to this power(God as we understand him) for help would make a lot of sense. How can I turn my whole life over to God? It is possible to turn your “whole life” over to…

Step Two: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Step Two:  Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. After admitting powerlessness over Alcohol in step 1, there may be no other option for an alcoholic at this point other than step 2. Does this mean that I have to believe in God in order to take this step? Willingness is what is required to take this step. If you have no belief what so ever in a higher power or even if you believe in God but think that God no longer believes in you, this is all fine. All that is…

What are the Twelve Steps?

There is a good chance you have heard them mentioned before. Especially if this is not your first time in treatment. If your counselor suggests that when you  leave treatment you should check out a support group, it is very likely the steps will be a part of that group. Who put the 12 steps together? As a short introduction let me give you a little background on the 12 steps.  In the mid 1930’s , an alcoholic stock broker and a physician who could not stay stopped, found a way to stay sober together. Where can the steps be…

Is Going Back To College an Option After Rehab?

Once you have started on your long journey to recovery and rehabilitation, it is time to start looking to your life outside your addiction. Although recovery is a lifelong process, it should not become your entire life. College is an important step towards enjoying a successful and rewarding career, but it can also be stressful and threaten your recovery unless you take your re-entry into academic life step by step, just like your journey to sobriety. The First Step Test the waters before diving into academic life. Rather than jumping in to a full time course load on a campus…

How Soon After Rehab Should You Go Back To School?

When you have finished rehab, life is full of new beginnings. It is time to look forward and celebrate the many options before you. For many this new start is the perfect time to head back to school and prepare for an exciting new future. Deciding to go back to school can be an easy choice but choosing when to go back to school is a much tougher decision. Why Should You Go Back to School? School can be a wonderful way to get your life back on track. It can train you for a new career or help you…