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Step Ten: Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

Step Ten: Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. By the time you have made every effort to clean up past harms and set matters straight, you have come a long way. Step 10 is the first of what many refer to as one of the maintenance steps. This is where we practice these steps on a daily basis . Step 10 is about daily self examination and cleaning up our current mistakes as we go along. What exactly does “continue” mean in this context? The word continue, according to Merriam-Webster dictionary means ;…

Step Nine: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Step Nine: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. After making the list in step 8 it is now time to go out into the world and do our best to straighten out the past. This is the step that suggests that we make “direct amends” to those we have harmed. It is interesting that in the AA big book, when referring to the ninth step, it states, “remember we agreed we were willing to go to any length for victory over alcohol”. So if you are ever asked…

Step Eight: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

Step Eight: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. It seems that each of the 12 steps is built on the one before. In the 4th step we not only listed our resentments from actions taken towards us, but also looked at our own part – where we caused harm to others. Some AA members refer to this as the 4th column in the “grudge list” or resentments. After sharing all of this with a sponsor or closed mouth, understanding friend, we express the readiness to have our shortcomings…

Step Seven: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

Step Seven: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. After you have honestly expressed willingness to have the negative items from your inventory removed in Step 6, you are ready to give them away in Step7. What do they mean humbly asked Him? To ”humbly ask” is a natural move after taking step 6 and to acknowledge that we cannot remove these shortcomings of our own power. We are approaching this step right sized. There is no humiliation here, only humility, which is a positive attitude towards our self and our lives. When I complete this step will I no…

Step Six: Were entirely ready to have God remove all of these defects of character.

Step Six: Were entirely ready to have God remove all of these defects of character. After sharing your inventory in step 5 it is now time to use what I like to call “the power steps” , 6 and 7 , to get rid of these objectionable items. Step 6 is about drawing out the willingness to give them up. Once again willingness is the key. When you can look back and see that you were given freedom from alcohol/drugs or whatever the obsession, maybe now you can believe that God can take the defects of character as well. If…

Step Five: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Step Five:  Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. Having honestly written down some hard truths about ourselves in step 4, it may seem like a useless exercise in beating ourselves up for past resentments and  mistakes made. That might be true if not for the steps that follow .  Step 5 is the first part of the solution to these things we now have put on paper.   What are the exact nature of my wrongs? These are the things you wrote down in your 4th step inventory. Resentments, fears,…

Step Four: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Step Four:  Made a searching and fearless moral inventory  of ourselves. After making a decision to turn to God, as you understand him, turning your will and your life is the beginning of the path  through the rest of the 12 steps.  Step 4 is about complete  self- examination. One important thing to remember as you move forward is that it will not work very well doing this on your own, without guidance. That is where a sponsor comes in.  A sponsor is someone who has the experience of having gone through the steps so they are able to help…

Step Three: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.

Step Three:  Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him. The steps seem to have a natural order of one step following into the next. If we have expressed willingness of the possibility that a higher power may be able to help solve our obsession then in the natural order of things turning to this power(God as we understand him) for help would make a lot of sense. How can I turn my whole life over to God? It is possible to turn your “whole life” over to…

Step Two: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Step Two:  Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. After admitting powerlessness over Alcohol in step 1, there may be no other option for an alcoholic at this point other than step 2. Does this mean that I have to believe in God in order to take this step? Willingness is what is required to take this step. If you have no belief what so ever in a higher power or even if you believe in God but think that God no longer believes in you, this is all fine. All that is…

Step One: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.

Step One: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable. Again the steps are being used for just about any compulsion you could think of. For simplicity we will mostly focus on the original 12 step program, Alcoholics Anonymous. If I am powerless over something, doesn’t that mean there is nothing I can do about it? Yes. That’s right. If you are an Alcoholic (powerless over alcohol) or an addict (powerless over drugs) or for that matter in many cases powerless over both, this is acknowledging that once you start to drink or use…