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“How to get Through the Holidays Clean and Sober”

“How to get Through the Holidays Clean and Sober” For recovering alcoholics and addicts, the holidays can be a rough time. Especially in early recovery when you can be more vulnerable to going out. This time of year has been called the Bermuda triangle for clean and sober people. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s Eve can be dangerous times for newcomers, or anyone for that matter. Lots of stress and expectations. Party, party, party! I do not have any family around and don’t know that many people in recovery. Should I just hide out at home on the holidays? I…

Twelve Step Meetings

Twelve Step Meetings At this point there is a smaller and smaller portion of our population that have not heard of “recovery or twelve meetings”. Alcoholics Anonymous meetings for alcoholics, Narcotics anonymous meetings for addicts, CA for cocaine addicts, GA for gamblers, OA, ACA, and on and on. Also Al-anon for family members and others who love an alcoholic, and Nar-anon for those with drug addicts in their lives. If you have an obsession with something or even someone, there is a program and fellowship for you. It has been suggested that I go to some meetings. Why? What do…

“The Kid with a Kid Goes to College”

The Kid with a Kid Goes to College As I mentioned in a previous blog, I became a single parent in my 40s. I would have to say it was the hardest and loneliest thing I’ve ever done. My daughter was ten when she moved in with me and we really didn’t know each other very well. Her mother and I split up when she was three. There was a long road of work ahead for us. But I am grateful for it now. While attempting to raise a child with all the limit setting and rite of passage a…

“Life on Life’s Terms”

Life on Life’s Terms On my 60th day sober I awoke completely paralyzed on the left side of my body. And I mean completely. I had no idea what had happened but my first thought was ; “Now what?” I could not wiggle a toe or finger. My left side was dead. Know what I did. I took forever to get dressed with one hand, but did it. I’ve heard it said over the years that; “even if your ass falls off, pick it up and bringing it to the meeting”. Well I took my right hand and was able…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Employers).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Employers). Did Bill W also write this chapter as he did all the others? Interestingly enough, this is the one chapter Bill did not write. Although there is some disagreement about details. Hank P was the first alcoholic, after Bill, to sober up at Towns Hospital in New York and became the second AA member in the New York area. Hank wrote Chapter 10. He was a business man who had held positions in some large corporations. He also helped Bill to get the book published. Hank had much experience…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (Working With Others).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (Working With Others). Now comes an action step. This will always save you in tough times and keep you steady in the day to day ups and downs that can be known as living life on life’s terms sober. As the opening of this chapter states; “Practical experience shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics. It works when other activities fail. This is our twelfth suggestion:” Why is there an entire chapter for the 12th step? At the time this book was…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (Into Action).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (Into Action). Now that we have made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to God as we understand him and have written down all the things that are blocking us, it is time for more action. The book states in many ways that faith without works is dead, and this program is not about thinking, or feeling, it is about doing. There is more work to do in order to be free from the insanity of alcoholism. What steps are covered in chapter 6? “Into Action” covers…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (How it Works).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous(How it Works). Does this chapter explain the whole program? No, not the whole program. This chapter introduces the twelve steps, which is the whole program, followed by a breakdown of steps 3 and 4. Chapter 5 is very much an instructional chapter. It does start out with some strong statements such as; “Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path”. This statement suggests that if you follow the directions you will have success at this thing called sobriety. The first page states that even if someone…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (More on Alcoholism).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (More on Alcoholism). This chapter starts out by saying; “Most of us have been unwilling to admit we were real alcoholics. No person likes to think he is bodily and mentally different from his fellow.” So who among us is in a rush to say we are different than everyone else? Especially when it comes to drinking and especially if we have built our life around it. What step is in this chapter? The first page of this chapter describes the first step of the 12 step program. “We learned that…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (There is a Solution).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (There is a Solution). Chapter 2 starts out: “We, of ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, know thousands of men and women who were once just as hopeless as Bill (from chapter 1). Nearly all have recovered. They have solved the drink problem”. This chapter is an overview of the program that Bill was given by his friend who visited him and sat at his kitchen table, sober! This was shocking to Bill, as his friend was just as bad a drunk as he was. Who are the members of AA? What type of people…