If it was suggested for you to attend meetings after you leave treatment, you will obviously have questions, if you have never attended 12 step meetings before. One of the things you will hear about is getting a sponsor.

What is a sponsor?

A sponsor is someone in the program who is active, has experience, and some length of time living clean and sober. This person will be available to help you through the pitfalls and challenges that come from living life on life’s terms without having to drink or use over it. A sponsor will also have experience practicing the 12 steps. They will be able to guide you through the process.

How do I get one? What am I looking for in a sponsor?

The first thing you will have to do is go to meetings. That is where you will find a sponsor, depending on “your drug of choice”, to direct you to the appropriate meetings. There are 12 step meetings for most possible addictions.

What you might want to look for in a sponsor may be, how long they are clean and sober, how active they are. These kinds of things you find out about someone over some time. There is an old saying; “Watch their feet and not their mouths”.

I’m not saying take the next year and analyze and research every potential sponsor before asking someone. Nor am I saying get one on day one, although, waiting too long, whatever that might be, could get you back out there. Recovery does not work very well on your own.

Everyone comes into recovery in different places in their lives. So the main thing is, to be honest with yourself. You will know in a short time what to look for and how to ask someone to sponsor you. Reaching out for help is not something we all do easily. But it will serve you well in recovery. Then you will soon be in a position to help others.

*There is a great pamphlet on the AA website called; “Questions & Answers on Sponsorship”. You can read it on the site. No charge.