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“Sponsorship?”

“Sponsorship?” If it was suggested for you to attend meetings after you leave treatment, you will obviously have questions, if you have never attended 12 step meetings before. One of the things you will hear about is getting a sponsor. What is a sponsor? A sponsor is someone in the program who is active, has experience, and some length of time living clean and sober. This person will be available to help you through the pitfalls and challenges that come from living life on life’s terms without having to drink or use over it. A sponsor will also have experience…

“Physical Pain in Recovery”

Before I type another word, let me first say that I claim amateur status. I am not a doctor or healer of any kind. But I have chronic pain and have had it all of the 31 years I’ve been clean and sober. Have had more medical procedures than I’d like to count. Though physical pain thresholds are different for different people, pain is painful! Some have a high tolerance for pain, some much lower. Pain is very hard to quantify. After saying all that, it is still possible that my experience may have some value somewhere for someone dealing…

“Going back to School in Sobriety”

“Going back to School in Sobriety” Of course, in order to go back to school, you would need to have gone there in the first place, right? So I never really followed through with the staying in school part. Because of that I had to start at the high school level of courses, to begin with, but eventually received a Bachelor of Science in Computer Science-with a minor in math. (the minor in math is the funny part. I was always terrible at math. Today, not so much). I was nearing sixty years old when I graduated. So time/age is…

“How to get Through the Holidays Clean and Sober”

“How to get Through the Holidays Clean and Sober” For recovering alcoholics and addicts, the holidays can be a rough time. Especially in early recovery when you can be more vulnerable to going out. This time of year has been called the Bermuda triangle for clean and sober people. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s Eve can be dangerous times for newcomers, or anyone for that matter. Lots of stress and expectations. Party, party, party! I do not have any family around and don’t know that many people in recovery. Should I just hide out at home on the holidays? I…

Twelve Step Meetings

Twelve Step Meetings At this point there is a smaller and smaller portion of our population that have not heard of “recovery or twelve meetings”. Alcoholics Anonymous meetings for alcoholics, Narcotics anonymous meetings for addicts, CA for cocaine addicts, GA for gamblers, OA, ACA, and on and on. Also Al-anon for family members and others who love an alcoholic, and Nar-anon for those with drug addicts in their lives. If you have an obsession with something or even someone, there is a program and fellowship for you. It has been suggested that I go to some meetings. Why? What do…

Losing People in Sobriety

Losing People in Sobriety When I got the gift of physical sobriety, one of the painful things I (we) have had to go through is losing people out of my life. First I had to stay away from my drinking and using friends, when I was newly sober. Then as I stayed sober I lost friends that went back out and never made it back. Next was the loss of friends and family who passed away. Friendships that fade or change drastically. It is all tough on the emotional level to deal with. Of course any good therapist would tell…

“The Kid with a Kid Goes to College”

The Kid with a Kid Goes to College As I mentioned in a previous blog, I became a single parent in my 40s. I would have to say it was the hardest and loneliest thing I’ve ever done. My daughter was ten when she moved in with me and we really didn’t know each other very well. Her mother and I split up when she was three. There was a long road of work ahead for us. But I am grateful for it now. While attempting to raise a child with all the limit setting and rite of passage a…

“Single Parent in Sobriety”

“Single Parent in Sobriety” When I was placed in a position where I was ready to do something that I didn’t really want (Sobriety), knew wouldn’t work (live sober), and didn’t understand (the 12 steps); that’s when I stayed clean and sober. In the program they call that willingness, I suppose. I had a three year old daughter, whom I hadn’t seen in over a year. Her mother and I cared about each other but didn’t know anything about living. We had very poor tools. Crystal meth and booze were the bad tools. I finally left this woman as our…

“Life on Life’s Terms”

Life on Life’s Terms On my 60th day sober I awoke completely paralyzed on the left side of my body. And I mean completely. I had no idea what had happened but my first thought was ; “Now what?” I could not wiggle a toe or finger. My left side was dead. Know what I did. I took forever to get dressed with one hand, but did it. I’ve heard it said over the years that; “even if your ass falls off, pick it up and bringing it to the meeting”. Well I took my right hand and was able…

A little ditty on the “Big Book” of Alcoholics Anonymous (DOCTOR BOB’S NIGHTMARE)

A little ditty on the “Big Book” of Alcoholics Anonymous (DOCTOR BOB’S NIGHTMARE) Why is Doctor Bob’s story always the first in the story section in all four editions of the Alcoholics Anonymous books? Dr. Bob Smith was the co-founder of the program. The date of the start of the program of Alcoholics Anonymous was marked on the day of Dr Bob’s last drink, June 10th 1935. It was a morning bottle of beer to calm the jitters so he could do a procedure that morning. Together Bill and Bob realized that in order to continue to stay sober they…