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“Single Parent in Sobriety”

“Single Parent in Sobriety” When I was placed in a position where I was ready to do something that I didn’t really want (Sobriety), knew wouldn’t work (live sober), and didn’t understand (the 12 steps); that’s when I stayed clean and sober. In the program they call that willingness, I suppose. I had a three year old daughter, whom I hadn’t seen in over a year. Her mother and I cared about each other but didn’t know anything about living. We had very poor tools. Crystal meth and booze were the bad tools. I finally left this woman as our…

“Life on Life’s Terms”

Life on Life’s Terms On my 60th day sober I awoke completely paralyzed on the left side of my body. And I mean completely. I had no idea what had happened but my first thought was ; “Now what?” I could not wiggle a toe or finger. My left side was dead. Know what I did. I took forever to get dressed with one hand, but did it. I’ve heard it said over the years that; “even if your ass falls off, pick it up and bringing it to the meeting”. Well I took my right hand and was able…

” My Newcomer Job?”

” My Newcomer Job?” When I first got clean and sober I didn’t have a job and hadn’t really had a legitimate one in quite awhile. Being in the program now I had a sponsor and his direction was now to go out and apply for six jobs a day. I didn’t have any skills or a car or drivers license, so I didn’t make the six applications a day. I was closer to two or three. With a little help I had a resume of some kind, with a little creativity, not lying just sharing the positive parts on…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (A Vision For You).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (A Vision For You). What is the purpose of this chapter? Chapter 11, “A Vision For You” is a summary of the big book , the program of Alcoholics Anonymous, and the growth of the fellowship at that time(1939). The main author of the big book, Bill W, had a certain style of writing that shows up over and over again. Bill liked to drive home the same point several different ways. He also didn’t like to use the same word more than once in a topic. Bill always summarized the…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Employers).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Employers). Did Bill W also write this chapter as he did all the others? Interestingly enough, this is the one chapter Bill did not write. Although there is some disagreement about details. Hank P was the first alcoholic, after Bill, to sober up at Towns Hospital in New York and became the second AA member in the New York area. Hank wrote Chapter 10. He was a business man who had held positions in some large corporations. He also helped Bill to get the book published. Hank had much experience…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (The Family Afterwards).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (The Family Afterwards). The Family Afterwards is the book’s effort to show the family of a sober alcoholic what they might expect and suggestions on how they may deal with the newly sober family member. Is this chapter only for the family or should the alcoholic read this also? This chapter gives much helpful experience on what to expect when dealing with a newly sober family member. Solid specific examples are given of what troubles may arise in the family and how to deal with them. But also there is important…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Wives).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Wives). This chapter was written when there were only men in the AA program. But the wives were just as involved in these early meetings as the men were. The wives of alcoholics would often need to deal with the most difficult situations. Of course the growth of female membership in AA has been tremendous over the years. And in the 1950’s, al anon was founded by the wives of those earlier members. Is this only written to the wives of alcoholics? What is the message of this chapter? Yes…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (Working With Others).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (Working With Others). Now comes an action step. This will always save you in tough times and keep you steady in the day to day ups and downs that can be known as living life on life’s terms sober. As the opening of this chapter states; “Practical experience shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics. It works when other activities fail. This is our twelfth suggestion:” Why is there an entire chapter for the 12th step? At the time this book was…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (Into Action).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (Into Action). Now that we have made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to God as we understand him and have written down all the things that are blocking us, it is time for more action. The book states in many ways that faith without works is dead, and this program is not about thinking, or feeling, it is about doing. There is more work to do in order to be free from the insanity of alcoholism. What steps are covered in chapter 6? “Into Action” covers…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (How it Works).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous(How it Works). Does this chapter explain the whole program? No, not the whole program. This chapter introduces the twelve steps, which is the whole program, followed by a breakdown of steps 3 and 4. Chapter 5 is very much an instructional chapter. It does start out with some strong statements such as; “Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path”. This statement suggests that if you follow the directions you will have success at this thing called sobriety. The first page states that even if someone…