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Twelve Step Meetings

Twelve Step Meetings At this point there is a smaller and smaller portion of our population that have not heard of “recovery or twelve meetings”. Alcoholics Anonymous meetings for alcoholics, Narcotics anonymous meetings for addicts, CA for cocaine addicts, GA for gamblers, OA, ACA, and on and on. Also Al-anon for family members and others who love an alcoholic, and Nar-anon for those with drug addicts in their lives. If you have an obsession with something or even someone, there is a program and fellowship for you. It has been suggested that I go to some meetings. Why? What do…

Losing People in Sobriety

Losing People in Sobriety When I got the gift of physical sobriety, one of the painful things I (we) have had to go through is losing people out of my life. First I had to stay away from my drinking and using friends, when I was newly sober. Then as I stayed sober I lost friends that went back out and never made it back. Next was the loss of friends and family who passed away. Friendships that fade or change drastically. It is all tough on the emotional level to deal with. Of course any good therapist would tell…

“The Kid with a Kid Goes to College”

The Kid with a Kid Goes to College As I mentioned in a previous blog, I became a single parent in my 40s. I would have to say it was the hardest and loneliest thing I’ve ever done. My daughter was ten when she moved in with me and we really didn’t know each other very well. Her mother and I split up when she was three. There was a long road of work ahead for us. But I am grateful for it now. While attempting to raise a child with all the limit setting and rite of passage a…

“Single Parent in Sobriety”

“Single Parent in Sobriety” When I was placed in a position where I was ready to do something that I didn’t really want (Sobriety), knew wouldn’t work (live sober), and didn’t understand (the 12 steps); that’s when I stayed clean and sober. In the program they call that willingness, I suppose. I had a three year old daughter, whom I hadn’t seen in over a year. Her mother and I cared about each other but didn’t know anything about living. We had very poor tools. Crystal meth and booze were the bad tools. I finally left this woman as our…

“Life on Life’s Terms”

Life on Life’s Terms On my 60th day sober I awoke completely paralyzed on the left side of my body. And I mean completely. I had no idea what had happened but my first thought was ; “Now what?” I could not wiggle a toe or finger. My left side was dead. Know what I did. I took forever to get dressed with one hand, but did it. I’ve heard it said over the years that; “even if your ass falls off, pick it up and bringing it to the meeting”. Well I took my right hand and was able…

” My Newcomer Job?”

” My Newcomer Job?” When I first got clean and sober I didn’t have a job and hadn’t really had a legitimate one in quite awhile. Being in the program now I had a sponsor and his direction was now to go out and apply for six jobs a day. I didn’t have any skills or a car or drivers license, so I didn’t make the six applications a day. I was closer to two or three. With a little help I had a resume of some kind, with a little creativity, not lying just sharing the positive parts on…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (A Vision For You).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (A Vision For You). What is the purpose of this chapter? Chapter 11, “A Vision For You” is a summary of the big book , the program of Alcoholics Anonymous, and the growth of the fellowship at that time(1939). The main author of the big book, Bill W, had a certain style of writing that shows up over and over again. Bill liked to drive home the same point several different ways. He also didn’t like to use the same word more than once in a topic. Bill always summarized the…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Employers).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Employers). Did Bill W also write this chapter as he did all the others? Interestingly enough, this is the one chapter Bill did not write. Although there is some disagreement about details. Hank P was the first alcoholic, after Bill, to sober up at Towns Hospital in New York and became the second AA member in the New York area. Hank wrote Chapter 10. He was a business man who had held positions in some large corporations. He also helped Bill to get the book published. Hank had much experience…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (The Family Afterwards).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (The Family Afterwards). The Family Afterwards is the book’s effort to show the family of a sober alcoholic what they might expect and suggestions on how they may deal with the newly sober family member. Is this chapter only for the family or should the alcoholic read this also? This chapter gives much helpful experience on what to expect when dealing with a newly sober family member. Solid specific examples are given of what troubles may arise in the family and how to deal with them. But also there is important…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Wives).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Wives). This chapter was written when there were only men in the AA program. But the wives were just as involved in these early meetings as the men were. The wives of alcoholics would often need to deal with the most difficult situations. Of course the growth of female membership in AA has been tremendous over the years. And in the 1950’s, al anon was founded by the wives of those earlier members. Is this only written to the wives of alcoholics? What is the message of this chapter? Yes…