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“Is it really possible to be clean and sober and comfortable, content, and at peace at the same time?”

“Is it really possible to be clean and sober and comfortable, content, and at peace at the same time?” Everyone comes into recovery in different places in their lives. They have varying degrees of the progression of alcoholism and/or drug addiction. There are many cases where people get involved in recovery and build a support network, through the fellowship, almost immediately. This would be an ideal situation for anyone having a problem. However, acknowledging the problem, us. Acknowledging the solution, recover. And taking the action to ask for help, then take that help, is not something that comes easily for…

“Sponsorship?”

“Sponsorship?” If it was suggested for you to attend meetings after you leave treatment, you will obviously have questions, if you have never attended 12 step meetings before. One of the things you will hear about is getting a sponsor. What is a sponsor? A sponsor is someone in the program who is active, has experience, and some length of time living clean and sober. This person will be available to help you through the pitfalls and challenges that come from living life on life’s terms without having to drink or use over it. A sponsor will also have experience…

“Physical Pain in Recovery”

Before I type another word, let me first say that I claim amateur status. I am not a doctor or healer of any kind. But I have chronic pain and have had it all of the 31 years I’ve been clean and sober. Have had more medical procedures than I’d like to count. Though physical pain thresholds are different for different people, pain is painful! Some have a high tolerance for pain, some much lower. Pain is very hard to quantify. After saying all that, it is still possible that my experience may have some value somewhere for someone dealing…

“Going back to School in Sobriety”

“Going back to School in Sobriety” Of course, in order to go back to school, you would need to have gone there in the first place, right? So I never really followed through with the staying in school part. Because of that I had to start at the high school level of courses, to begin with, but eventually received a Bachelor of Science in Computer Science-with a minor in math. (the minor in math is the funny part. I was always terrible at math. Today, not so much). I was nearing sixty years old when I graduated. So time/age is…

“How to get Through the Holidays Clean and Sober”

“How to get Through the Holidays Clean and Sober” For recovering alcoholics and addicts, the holidays can be a rough time. Especially in early recovery when you can be more vulnerable to going out. This time of year has been called the Bermuda triangle for clean and sober people. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s Eve can be dangerous times for newcomers, or anyone for that matter. Lots of stress and expectations. Party, party, party! I do not have any family around and don’t know that many people in recovery. Should I just hide out at home on the holidays? I…

Twelve Step Meetings

Twelve Step Meetings At this point there is a smaller and smaller portion of our population that have not heard of “recovery or twelve meetings”. Alcoholics Anonymous meetings for alcoholics, Narcotics anonymous meetings for addicts, CA for cocaine addicts, GA for gamblers, OA, ACA, and on and on. Also Al-anon for family members and others who love an alcoholic, and Nar-anon for those with drug addicts in their lives. If you have an obsession with something or even someone, there is a program and fellowship for you. It has been suggested that I go to some meetings. Why? What do…

“The Kid with a Kid Goes to College”

The Kid with a Kid Goes to College As I mentioned in a previous blog, I became a single parent in my 40s. I would have to say it was the hardest and loneliest thing I’ve ever done. My daughter was ten when she moved in with me and we really didn’t know each other very well. Her mother and I split up when she was three. There was a long road of work ahead for us. But I am grateful for it now. While attempting to raise a child with all the limit setting and rite of passage a…

” My Newcomer Job?”

” My Newcomer Job?” When I first got clean and sober I didn’t have a job and hadn’t really had a legitimate one in quite awhile. Being in the program now I had a sponsor and his direction was now to go out and apply for six jobs a day. I didn’t have any skills or a car or drivers license, so I didn’t make the six applications a day. I was closer to two or three. With a little help I had a resume of some kind, with a little creativity, not lying just sharing the positive parts on…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (A Vision For You).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (A Vision For You). What is the purpose of this chapter? Chapter 11, “A Vision For You” is a summary of the big book , the program of Alcoholics Anonymous, and the growth of the fellowship at that time(1939). The main author of the big book, Bill W, had a certain style of writing that shows up over and over again. Bill liked to drive home the same point several different ways. He also didn’t like to use the same word more than once in a topic. Bill always summarized the…

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Wives).

A little ditty on the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous (To Wives). This chapter was written when there were only men in the AA program. But the wives were just as involved in these early meetings as the men were. The wives of alcoholics would often need to deal with the most difficult situations. Of course the growth of female membership in AA has been tremendous over the years. And in the 1950’s, al anon was founded by the wives of those earlier members. Is this only written to the wives of alcoholics? What is the message of this chapter? Yes…