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“Is it really possible to be clean and sober and comfortable, content, and at peace at the same time?”

“Is it really possible to be clean and sober and comfortable, content, and at peace at the same time?” Everyone comes into recovery in different places in their lives. They have varying degrees of the progression of alcoholism and/or drug addiction. There are many cases where people get involved in recovery and build a support network, through the fellowship, almost immediately. This would be an ideal situation for anyone having a problem. However, acknowledging the problem, us. Acknowledging the solution, recover. And taking the action to ask for help, then take that help, is not something that comes easily for…

“Sponsorship?”

“Sponsorship?” If it was suggested for you to attend meetings after you leave treatment, you will obviously have questions, if you have never attended 12 step meetings before. One of the things you will hear about is getting a sponsor. What is a sponsor? A sponsor is someone in the program who is active, has experience, and some length of time living clean and sober. This person will be available to help you through the pitfalls and challenges that come from living life on life’s terms without having to drink or use over it. A sponsor will also have experience…

“Physical Pain in Recovery”

Before I type another word, let me first say that I claim amateur status. I am not a doctor or healer of any kind. But I have chronic pain and have had it all of the 31 years I’ve been clean and sober. Have had more medical procedures than I’d like to count. Though physical pain thresholds are different for different people, pain is painful! Some have a high tolerance for pain, some much lower. Pain is very hard to quantify. After saying all that, it is still possible that my experience may have some value somewhere for someone dealing…

“Cravings!”

“Cravings!” Often times in early recovery, and sometimes beyond, you may experience cravings. And it doesn’t matter what your “drug of choice” was, the cravings will be similar and you will feel the desire to pursue them. I am about one month out of treatment and staying clean and sober, but lately I’ve been feeling the urge to get high. How do I deal with these cravings? It is not unusual to have this occur, especially if not very long out of treatment. In fact cravings are a byproduct of whatever you drink, shoot, snort, swallow, or smoke. Your body…

“Marijuana is now legal?!”

“Marijuana is now legal?!” Recreational marijuana use is now legal in California as well as eight other states. There are several other states that have approved use of marijuana for medical issues. I am clean and sober for over a year now and pot was never a problem for me. I often have problems sleeping and someone told me I could get a prescription for pot that would help with my sleep trouble. Why would that jeopardize my recovery? Sleep problems are common for many in recovery and even those who have never had an issue with drugs or alcohol.…

“Going back to School in Sobriety”

“Going back to School in Sobriety” Of course, in order to go back to school, you would need to have gone there in the first place, right? So I never really followed through with the staying in school part. Because of that I had to start at the high school level of courses, to begin with, but eventually received a Bachelor of Science in Computer Science-with a minor in math. (the minor in math is the funny part. I was always terrible at math. Today, not so much). I was nearing sixty years old when I graduated. So time/age is…

“How to get Through the Holidays Clean and Sober”

“How to get Through the Holidays Clean and Sober” For recovering alcoholics and addicts, the holidays can be a rough time. Especially in early recovery when you can be more vulnerable to going out. This time of year has been called the Bermuda triangle for clean and sober people. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s Eve can be dangerous times for newcomers, or anyone for that matter. Lots of stress and expectations. Party, party, party! I do not have any family around and don’t know that many people in recovery. Should I just hide out at home on the holidays? I…

Losing People in Sobriety

Losing People in Sobriety When I got the gift of physical sobriety, one of the painful things I (we) have had to go through is losing people out of my life. First I had to stay away from my drinking and using friends, when I was newly sober. Then as I stayed sober I lost friends that went back out and never made it back. Next was the loss of friends and family who passed away. Friendships that fade or change drastically. It is all tough on the emotional level to deal with. Of course any good therapist would tell…

“The Kid with a Kid Goes to College”

The Kid with a Kid Goes to College As I mentioned in a previous blog, I became a single parent in my 40s. I would have to say it was the hardest and loneliest thing I’ve ever done. My daughter was ten when she moved in with me and we really didn’t know each other very well. Her mother and I split up when she was three. There was a long road of work ahead for us. But I am grateful for it now. While attempting to raise a child with all the limit setting and rite of passage a…

” My Newcomer Job?”

” My Newcomer Job?” When I first got clean and sober I didn’t have a job and hadn’t really had a legitimate one in quite awhile. Being in the program now I had a sponsor and his direction was now to go out and apply for six jobs a day. I didn’t have any skills or a car or drivers license, so I didn’t make the six applications a day. I was closer to two or three. With a little help I had a resume of some kind, with a little creativity, not lying just sharing the positive parts on…